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Pick Up A Snow Bunny This Season

Alexa — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 03:42:35 +0000

Whether you have gone to the snow for a session on your ski’s or board, or whether all you want to do is go out and pick up girls, this guide will help you be successful in finding that snow bunny that will keep you warm at nights! Lets review a few very very simple facts.

1. Snow is cold. Therefore, people are cold

2. Snow outfits are ugly.

3. The only time a person is stopped on the mountain is after they’ve crashed or in a chairlift.

With these 3 things in mind, you are well on your way to picking up in the snow. Lets think – if you meet a girl like me – you’ll meet someone that loves the snow. The fresh powder and the beautiful soft snow…And when it comes to meeting people on the ski slopes, you need to tap into the very thing that we’re all looking for – warmth!

Striking up the conversation

So what do you say to a girl you meet on the chairlift? Its so easy, there are a million things to talk about in the snow. The weather, the runs, the speed of the chairlift anything – all you need you make sure, is that you don’t come across like a weirdo, and that you don’t sound like you’re trying to pick us up…No girl will respond well to pick up lines in the snow. There is very little scope for this unfortunately, but its just the way it is. The way you should see things is that if you consider going to a bar – its very easy for a girl to imagine going home with you/kissing you in the parking lots etc. In the snow, its a very different story. A girl has to think about taking her snow jacket off, and about 6 other layers, then getting changed into her “good” undies and making sure she doesn’t smell of sweat and that her face doesn’t look like her cheeks have been beaten with a wet fish…So make sure you sound genuine. A good rule of thumb is that if you are thinking that you’re trying to pick her up, then you probably sound like you are. So try to get that out of your head, and just move onto my next tip.

Numbers are winners

In the snow, there is a party atmosphere. People want to meet people, and people want to talk to you. The fact is, the more people you talk to, the more chances you will have to pick up. Sure, you won’t every time, but who will? Many girls will be there with their boyfriends or families – a snow trip with 8 single girls is very rare. Often the single girls are those who are actually working on the mountain, so sometimes they are your best bet. If you are in a big ski field like in Canada or in Japan, there are many many people who go to those ski fields from all over the world – mostly single! Find out when the next hospitality night or local workers night is, and hit that party – your ability to pick up girls there will be the highest.Like I said, just talk to as many girls as possible, and you’re bound to find one like me!

Mountain Hunting

The actual mountain is a great place to pick up. When girls fall, they like someone to come and help them up. I should know – I hate getting snow in my bum, and feeling silly. All I wish for is some white night to come along and help me up, pick up my goggles from 10 meters away, and help me up…Here is a little story for you: I was once skiing in Japan, and hit a small mogul run. The weather was just beautiful, but I managed to fall quite heavily. A lovely japanese boy came to help me up, and he told me how I made a terrific impression of a rag doll when I fell – he had such a cheeky grin on his face, that we both burst out laughing. After that, it was close to the last run of the day, so we decided to go down the mountain together (Because I didn’t feel too confident at that stage). We ended up spending the evening sipping Sake and talking about the snow etc. In the end, we swapped digits, and I have been in contact ever since. Next time I’m in Japan, I will definitely meet up with him! My little saviour!

Going out at night

Picking up in nightclubs in the snow is easy. Mostly, the people that are there are single, and know how to party. Everyone is happy, and the overall atmosphere is very positive. Don’t worry about being shy – the snow is where characters rule! Want to dance like a goose? Dance like a goose! Girls love this, and will respond to guys who show that they are confident. When choosing a place to hang out at night, ask the locals. They will know what is good and what’s not. Don’t go to the places that your tour guide recommends. And at the end of the day, just follow the nicest girl you’ve met on the mountain to wherever she wants to go!

So there you have it – a small insight into picking up in the snow. Snow bunnies like me are a plenty if you know where to look.

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Happy dating!

Alexa Hartstone

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Beating Shyness – A Practical Guide

Harry — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 10:39:19 +0000

So you’re shy. So what you think? Well, there is more to meeting girls than just reading the articles here. Of course, they give you a huge leg up, but lots of your advancements in being successful with picking up single women, or being successful on online dating sites is within yourself. Don’t wait another minute, and start reading this to overcome shyness…

Definition of shyness:

adj. shi·er (shr) or shy·er, shi·est (shst) or shy·est

1. Easily startled; timid.

2.

a. Drawing back from contact or familiarity with others; retiring or reserved.

b. Marked by reserve or diffidence: a shy glance.

3. Distrustful; wary: shy of strangers.

4. Not having paid an amount due, as one’s ante in poker.

5. Short; lacking: Eleven is one shy of a dozen.

intr.v. shied (shd), shy·ing, shies (shz)

6. To move suddenly, as if startled; start.

7. To draw back, as from fear or caution; recoil.

n. pl. shies (shz)

So this is the dictionary definition of being shy, but what about the DATING definition of shyness. Its a bit simpler:

Shyness = No dating.

What we have learnt over time is that shyness will significantly impact on the number of dates you get. This should be fairly obvious to most of you, who would realize that the formula of More Tries = More Dates would mean that shy guys just don’t have the numbers, and its definitely true. The numbers just don’t work. Say there is a shy but above average looking guy. He stands in the corner. He has his arms folded and doesn’t approach anyone. Even when other guys come up to him, he gives them 1 syllable answers and doesn’t engage in any activities or conversation. Other guys will ALSO not talk to you. So this applies not only to your guy-girl interactions, but also with your friendships. So how can you beat this? Here are the essential tips to help you on your way to overcoming shyness. Don’t be Love Shy! Be Love Confident!

Get rid of my shyness tips

1. Posture: Stand tall. Don’t slouch and droop your shoulders. Make sure that you have a strong core (ie stomach is held firm and chest is proud) – you don’t have to be a muscle man, but if you concentrate on these 2 things, you will appear very much more confident. Whilst you are at it, don’t just do it half arsed, actually stand in front of a mirror and check what you look like. Having a bad posture will make you look love shy.

2. Body language. Make sure that you aren’t giving signals that tell people to go away. Arm crossing, looking down at your shoes, turning away when someone is speaking to you, etc – all have an impact on whether people will talk to you. Remember, being shy does not only mean that you aren’t making the effort to speak to others, but also means that people won’t want to talk to you if you are not giving them the correct messages. By working on your body language, you will improve the number of people that come up and talk to you which in turn means More Tries = More Dates.

3. Eye contact. Although eye contact is in part to do with your posture and your body language as above, it is so important, it deserves its own bullet point. Eye contact with other girls AND other guys is an essential part of overcoming your shyness. Shy guys do not hold gazes. They look away as soon as they are looked at, and people perceive this as being shy/weak/not confident. Make the change. Scan the room with your eyes and hold gazes. But don’t stare. It IS a bit of a balance, but I’m sure you will get the right idea. A quick tip – when holding a gaze, especially with a female, in your mind just think: “You are reaaaaaaalllllly hot” and if you are still looking at them for any longer than that, then its too long. Don’t stare.

4. Be proactive. Overcoming shyness means you need to put yourself in some uncomfortable situations. Sure, you may not WANT to approach a group of girls – and yes, I do know that they may seem intimidating – but you will NEED to do this a few times to get it into your psyche that they will NOT bite you. The trick is – start slow. Approach 2 girls – perhaps they aren’t too good looking. Have a chat, not longer than 2-3 minutes, and then move on. Then approach 2 girls who are a bit better looking, and then next time approach 5 girls who are good looking. And so on and so on. Over time (A relatively short amount of time), this tip in itself can help you get past your shyness and move on. Within a few weeks, you will be so much more confident, you will be amazed.

5. Be Curious. This tip will help you when you are talking to others. Its a great trick, and one that I tell everyone that I can. All you need to do is be curious. Or be interested. When are you next talking to someone and you are in the process of curing your shyness, all you need to do is to ask the other person all about themselves. Be interested in what they are doing, or what they have done. You’d be amazed at how much people love talking about themselves. This is fantastic as then you don’t even need to think about anything to talk about! Once you master this technique, you will never feel shy again when you meet new people.

6. Boost your numbers. The biggest point of this article is to boost your numbers, and the only way you’re going to do this is by asking more and more girls out. Beating shyness can all be seen by the number of people you ask out in one night. The trick to this (And this one you shouldn’t tell everyone about or it will be obvious). With a few friends, have a scoreboard. Call it the Board of Success. Just ask a few friends to keep score of the number of girls you ask out in one night. This is an honor system and one that will rocket you to success. Make it a game. You get 1 point per person you ask out. 2 points if they give you their number, and 3 points if you get a kiss (even on the cheek). Someone has to witness each event, or sight the number. By the end of the night, you will have a few numbers, have gotten a few kisses on the cheek, and at the end of the day – you’ve overcome shyness and stop being love shy!

Now go on, get out of here and make this work. I guarantee that if you follow these steps, you will get over your shyness before you know it. Be a love guru, not love shy!

Happy hunting

Harry Laurent

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Pick Up Girls At A Casino

Harry — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 01:36:42 +0000

If you are at all like me, you love casinos. The bright lights, the sounds of money falling, and best of all, the rush when you got for your double down on blackjack. But little know to many, is that a casino provides even more. Have you ever thought of picking up at a casino? Well, it is one of the most untapped resources around. A Casino has many features that result in women being very receptive when it comes to obtaining phone numbers and being successful in your pick up exploits. Here’s how:

When entering a casino, find the first girl standing around and not playing a game, and ask her whether she knows how to make big money. You’ll get a laugh out of her, and this will break the ice for yourself as well. Part of being successful when picking up is making sure you are in the right frame of mind yourself. I always get asked how to pick up girls all the time, but no-one ever thinks that its something that they need to do to their mind set. Free your mind, grasshopper, and endless female riches will be yours!

Never make a bee-line for the blackjack table, sit down and immerse yourself in the game. Of course, if you are truly just there the quell your gambling addiction, then this post isn’t for you. But if you are a social gambler like I am and you like testing your pick-up-skills, then you’ll find that you will want the comfort of a women when you lose and you will want the attention of some hotties when you win!

When you are playing a game, make sure you make lots of noise when you win. Exclaim out loud, bang the table, be a bit over happy. This draws a crowd, even if done on a mild level. Don’t overdo it or you’ll find yourself sitting out on the street without your chips. Just make it interesting. Smile at the girls around you. My recommendation for fun, social casino games are Craps (The one with the roll-y dice) and Roulette. The rest are too anti-social. Having said that, I love blackjack, so I just make these methods work for me.

Don’t drink heavily – if you’re gambling, many casinos will keep it coming with drink orders for you. They will likely be brought to you by attractive women, and take note: You will never pick up these women. Even if you feel like you had a connection when you were ordering your last G & T, you don’t. All they want are your tips.\

Once you’ve been gambling a while, take a few breaks, Just tip your chair forwards to reserve your seat, and take a step back from the table. Look around you. Find the most attractive looking girl in your vicinity, and say something. Just say anything. It doesn’t have to be amazing. But don’t just stand there. Even if you stand there doing nothing for 10 seconds, your opportunity is lost. You need to make contact straight away. This way, the girls around you will notice that you are receptive to talking to people, and I assure you, you will get some conversation going no matter what.

Once you’ve finished playing, just say out loud, ok, so now I’ve made this money, who’s coming for a dance and a drink? Then look around, and if you’ve followed these easy, and very very basic steps, you would have already basically picked up.

Take your prize, and your female prize to the dance floor, and the night is yours.

If you don’t know what I mean here about picking up girls at the casino, or you need more clarification, just visit the forum here to ask me how, or send me a comment on this page. I always look forward to hearing from you!

Happy hunting

Harry Laurent

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My New Years Resolutions – Dating In 2010

Alexa — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 07:10:35 +0000

After the “Naughties” decade, we are in for a great new decade, or at least I feel like we are! 2010 is going to be the year of revolution in dating, with many new online dating sites and online dating methods. We have come a long way in the last 10 years. Whoever heard of facebook, twitter, myspace and the like in the year 2000 (Look me up on facebook and twitter)! These methods of contacting others has spread far and wide, and now we find that we just can’t do without it. Through my experiences with picking up in bars, clubs compared with meeting great guys on good online dating sites, I often wonder whether its even worth getting dressed and going out these days! Of course, it is always fun to go out with the girls and meet new people, and listening to new pick up lines is hilarious! I can’t WAIT until 2010 brings me some novel ways to meet new guys! Here is a list of My 2010 New Years Resolutions for Dating.

1. Online Dating – Find an awesome online dating site and stick to it. I often move from dating site to dating site and sometimes I just don’t get it right. Often they are expensive and sometimes you just have a hard time even working out how to use them! I’m not the most tech savvy person, but I love meeting people online. My first point of call will be to read Ollie S’ review of Free Dating Sites for 2010.

2. Being more receptive to male advances – As a girl, we get approached by guys all the time. I have heard it all, the good pick up lines, the bad ones, and the ones that make me just go, Huh? Well, I’ve decided to make it a new years resolution for 2010 to be more receptive. I know that a lot of my girlfriends have said similar things.

3. Take up a new co-ed team sport! Sports are great ways to meet people, and I have always stuck to single person sports like tennis, and all girl sports like netball. Well, I would love to try something with guys as well! After all, who doesn’t like a sporty guy! I am thinking that beach volleyball or even 10-pin bowling might be interesting. Any other ideas guys? Help me build a list of great new co-ed sports. Just tell me on the forum.

4. Thinking up more cool new dating places - Sometimes, its me that’s making the plans for a date. I don’t mind this at all, and the traditional times where the male always came up with the date plans is over! 2010 I’m going to take charge, and try some cool new dating venues, and date ideas. If there are any girls reading this – what about trying to take your man to do something he would like, like going to an indoor shooting range? Or how about getting a big group of guys and girls to go paintballing instead of speed dating!

5. Speaking of Speed Dating – I would love to try more speed dating. A busy life has funnily enough stopped me from going on speed dates. They are always held during times when I already have other committments. If its not writing on here, its taking the dating classes in New York. If its not that, its catching up with my girlfriends, or going on one-on-one dates. I will try some more speed dating events. I always tell my readers and students that speed dating is just dating for busy people – and look at me! Time to put my own words into action!

6. Finally – to try new things in the bedroom – I’m always up for experimenting, and 2010 is going to bring new fun into the bedroom! Time to start reading the Kamasutra again!

I hope you like my Dating New Years Resolutions for 2010. Just a bit of fun I know, but lets try to build this list up if you can! Let me know what your 2010 Dating New Years Resolutions are.

You can either leave a comment here, or go to the forum (Brand new)

Happy dating

xx Alexa Hartstone

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Review Of 2010 Best Online Dating Sites

Ollie — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 05:15:12 +0000

I have been to many websites testing online dating over and over again. There are many claims on the internet for Best Online Dating Sites and The Greatest Online Dating Sites – but most are just out there to grab your money. After all, most are in it to make money! Online dating sites turn over millions every year, driven by people’s continued online presence and ease of use. Its all very well and good for you to try these dating sites, but why scour the for hours looking for the right ones? Sometimes the biggest ones are not the best ones. Your profile is often lost in a sea of other profiles, and its hard to get noticed. Well, over time, I have found a few dating sites that I will list below. Just keep them in mind next time you’re looking to join one, as these ones appear to have the best ability to actually pull you some girls.

A tip on online dating sites: DON’T OUTLAY ANY MONEY until you’ve had the chance to review what that site has to offer. I will NOT put any dating sites below that will cost you money – I truly believe that the best things in life are free. These dating sites are the 3 I found best out of about 50…They are all free to join, and I personally each of them (Along with many bad ones – just ask me on the forum and I can tell you which ones were bad. So onwards – which is 2010’s best dating site?

DATING SITE 1 – This dating site has been in inception for quite some time. It boasts a regularly updated database of users – which will be useful for reaching out to active singles. The upside is that its really easy to sign up (I always suggest that people start a new email address specifically for dating sites so you can manage your logins easily and so your boss doesn’t accidentally stumble across it at work!). I tested this site for 2 months, and got 8 inquiries to my profile. I didn’t pay a cent, and never had to do a thing! I never followed through on those enquiries as the whole thing was for research, but that was quite good, considering I’m not the best looking guy out there! The girls seemed really genuine compared with other sites like rsvp.com where I have heard many stories about people meeting up with middle aged women rather than the smokers on their profile pic! Not a good look! Dating site 1 also has some interesting features, including ways to boost your profile visability.

DATING SITE 2 – Online dating has definitely come a long way, and this is evident by the layout of this dating site. I have never seen such a professional looking online dating site – it increases the appeal of both guys and girl in going to the site. Once again, I tested this for just over 6 weeks, and it was terrific. I actually did follow through on 2 messages that I received, because the profile pictures were very appealing. And lo and behold! They looked exactly the same as their profile pictures! I am still in very close contact with one of them…I used one of my favourite techniques in getting a prospective online date to say yes to a personal meeting – Actually, its not my trick, I got it from Harry Laurent! I went out and bought the cheapest phone I could find. It was $39, with a prepaid sim card within. I packaged it in a box and sent it to her, all fully charged and ready to go (If you are doing this, make sure you take it out of the box and test it etc!!!). I had the phone sent via courier so I would know exactly when it arrived at her doorstep, then I called it 5 minutes after she opened the package and asked her out on a date! She said yes straight away…I definitely recommend checking out dating site 2 as I have had many successes with them as well. This link will take you to their sign up page if you so feel inclined. This site may well be the best 2010 dating site!

DATING SITE 3 – Here is a slightly larger one that has actually proven the test of time. Unlike some of the larger ones, there are great tools to help you narrow down girls in your area and finding single girls who will actually talk to you! There is absolutely no point in having a site full of single girls where none of them are actually out there looking at your profile. There is a neat feature which puts your profile on a rotation which doesn’t cost any money. I used this site for 3 months, because I wanted to create some kind of statistics so you can see that this one actually does have good visibility. Visibility is the key to success, just like getting out there and asking out lots of girls – eventually one will say yes! In this case, there is no fear of failure, as you don’t have to lift a finger! Populating your profile is easy on this one, and I would recommend this to newer online dating users. Most of my friends who use online dating found this the best site to start off with, and then I showed them the ones above, and they are hooked. Dating site 3 has been around the longest of these 3 and definitely has the number of users to prove it.

Over the course of 3 months, my profile which was 100% completed, had the following numbers

Views – 3437

Private messages to me – 211

Profiles resulting in face to face meetings – 35

I thought that was pretty good. What surprised me was that there wasn’t a slow start or uptake as many other sites, but I received my first message about 2 hours after I put my half finished profile on there! I wasn’t working very fast, so I think if you know what you’re doing, you could probably have your online dating profile sorted out in about 45 minutes in total…Click here to visit dating site 3

So there you have it. Let me know how you go. I am always trying to review online dating sites, so I can populate this list. If I find another one, I will add it here, but these will definitely be the front runners for me and my friends in 2010. I love picking up online!

Keep smiling!

Ollie S

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Pick Up On New Years Eve

Harry — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 11:18:55 +0000

For all those single guys out there who are dreading NYE this year, here are a few tips.

1. Select your party carefully – During the festive season, you will receive many many offers to attend parties. There will be christmas parties for your work, your family bbq, your friends meetings for drinks, and more. Don’t go to everything thinking you will pick up. There are some functions which will have a much higher yield than usual. Most popular local bars will have a christmas night, or a new years eve party – these are HOT SPOTS for meeting girls. Don’t go to your parents bbq if you are planning on that special midnight kiss!

2. Call a few girls – if you know some nice single girls, or even have an online dating account where you have a few girls that you speak to on there, invite them out. Its a numbers game – invite 3-5 girls to a party, and you can be sure that you will score by the end of the night. Remember not to invite them exclusively. Say something like: My friend is having a party at his house – if you’re not doing anything, come along! If you don’t present it like that, you may come across as a bit of a jerk when they realise that you’ve invited 5 of them just so you can score by the end of the night. Invite them to a party with lots of people that you know. Its also best if they don’t know too many people, so they keep trying to find you for the rest of the night.

3. 30 or so minutes before midnight, make sure that you have your target prepared. During the night, you should have made some kind of reference to her giving you a midnight kiss, to remove any feelings of tension or awkwardness when it comes to making your move at midnight.

4. Make the move. At midnight, don’t just stand there. Hold your girl close and just go for it. Girls are very receptive at this time of the night. AND they love confident men. If you falter, or pause, the moment will be gone. And remember, after the first kiss, the second and third ones are much easier!

So don’t delay. Get out there and start kissing!

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How To Attract Girls Like James Bond

Harry — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 12:06:05 +0000

If you’ve visited this site, chances are you are a full blooded male who watches James Bond. If you haven’t, go down to your local video store and hire all of them, and don’t leave the room until you have watched them all! They are one of the greatest masterpieces of all time.

As a male, you would have thought to yourself, “Why does James Bond get all the hot women” or similarly, “How can I be like James Bond when it comes to attracting beautiful women”. Now although it is a fictitious show (Or is it!), we can learn quite a lot from the who idea and manner in which James Bond acts. So onto the juicy bits as to why he’s so successful, and we all had to go through all the phases of dating!

1. Confidence - now you’ve read many times about why I think confidence is important, and certainly, this has to be number one on the list. James Bond exudes confidence. He never backs down and he always knows what to do. You never see him thinking about asking a girl out. He always has a smart quip or response when put into any situation. Learn from this. Pre-think your actions, and how you want to be viewed before you are “assessed” by all the beautiful women out there.

2. Fashion – James Bond never dresses in his sisters hand me downs. Check out Casino Royale. He is dashing and attractive at all times. Sure, he has a nice body and people making him look handsome, but keep in mind that many guys just don’t look good because they are not dressed in the right clothes. The world of online fashion is amazing. You just need to google all the different fashion tips there are, and you will never be lost. Going to the beach? Don’t turn up in jeans! A nice pair of Havanas, and boardshorts with some matchin accessories, and you’re done. Not an accessories kind of guy? No matter…Just make sure you don’t stick out like a sore thumb!

3. James Bond never accepts defeat – How many times in the movies have you seen James Bond turned down by beautiful women. It happens all the time. In the end, he always gets his girl. The reason is, he never accepts defeat. Keep this in mind next time a girl says that she won’t give you her phone number. Don’t press her like a madman, you will get the chance to impress her again, and if not, just move on. Find another girl. That’s what James Bond does.

4. Never a 1 woman man – James bond never focusses only on 1 woman. In all his films, he always has more than 1 attractive girl going at any time. Often there is a bad girl and a good girl. In the end, do they care? Not in the least! Funnily, this is actually closer to the truth in real life than you think. Girls like men who have attractive women hanging around them, or guys who have the ability to pick up women. They don’t really want that goofy guy in the corner, who is waiting for some hot bird to come and pick him up. That will never happen! Never focus your attention on just one women, or she will feel either smothered, or like you’re desperate. Spread your efforts evenly…It will pay dividends in the future.

5. Be funny – James Bond is never bland. He always has something a little quirky to say. And listen to all the cringe worthy catch phrases and “dad” jokes that he makes. You may think – what a goof – but girls like these. And in any case, its always going to better than just saying, Oh yeah?… Always have a few fall back options for being funny. Even pay yourself out to be funny. In the end, the girl is laughing and you are the focus of the positive feelings. Mission accomplished.

6. Have physical prowess – James Bond is no slug. He doesn’t sit around like fat slob. He is always running, or jumping, or doing something physical, and he is always the best at it. Sure, there are times to be debonair, but most of the time, being good at physical things makes you more attractive. Think of why Handymen get married women, or why Jocks get the school prom queen – being good physically makes you more attractive. Guys, hit the gym! Pick a sport that you are actually good at and go for it. Be as good at that sport as you can. Don’t worry – you don’t need to be the best at it, you just need to beat the guys on your street!

So there you have it. Want to be like James Bond with the ladies? Want to attract those hotties like Octopussy? Just follow these steps and you will make it there! If you want to read more tips from the DatingDragons.com website, just be sure to sign up to our newsletter. All subscribers get a FREE ebook, which has PAGES of dating tips that you can take away with you! What does it cost you? Nothing! Just sign up, and you will receive your ebook in your email inbox soon!

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Once again, Happy Hunting

Harry Laurent

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Romantic Songs

Ollie — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 11:38:28 +0000

Here is a list of Romantic Songs that I found on the internet. Use them next time you’re trying to woo your lady friend!

Top Romantic Songs

The best love songs for singles and couples

Do you remember what song was playing when you had your first slow dance? What was on the car radio during that painful breakup? What song always makes you think of the one who got away? Of course you do. Music generates strong connections.

Associating music with romantic moments and memories is a universal tendency. Have you ever noticed how many songs are about love and attraction? Love is one of the most powerful emotions, and it’s no surprise that it has inspired almost every songwriter since the birth of popular music.

When we here at TopDatingTips began compiling a list of the top 50 most romantic songs across all genres, we knew hundreds of great classics and lesser known gems undoubtedly would be left off the list. There are just too many to include! Regardless, this list – in no particular order – is a great starting place. If you haven’t heard any of these, get ready to start downloading. You’ll most likely discover at least one old favorite or a few new classics among the list that you’ll want to have at the ready for the next special romantic moment.

Happy listening!

“Wonderful Tonight” by Eric Clapton

An ode to your loved one and sung with heartfelt honesty by the guitar god himself, the beauty of this song is in its romantic simplicity: it’s a song about being proud to be with someone, a song of compliments and a song of love. You can’t do better than this for classic, romantic sentiment.

“God Only Knows” by The Beach Boys

The Beach Boys tended toward sun-drenched harmonies about surfing and cute girls, but “God Only Knows” from the band’s groundbreaking “Pet Sounds” album marked a huge shift. Grown up, heartfelt, and even spiritual, this song still chokes up listeners with its beauty.

“At Last” by Etta James
Hasn’t everyone at this point been to at least one wedding in which “At Last” was the bride and groom’s chosen song? I don’t point this out as disparagement. Rather, it’s the perfect example of how universally adored this song is. Any man can appreciate hearing that his girl considers him the prince and all others who came before him the frogs.

“Crazy in Love” by Beyonce
Love songs don’t always have to be sappy ballads. Just try to resist getting on the dance floor when Beyonce tells her man how crazy in love she is with him. Booty-shaking is as worthy a way as any to show your love.

“How Do I Live” by Trisha Yearwood
There was a time when every Hollywood movie needed a big, bombastic chart-topping song to accompany the climactic scene where the planet is saved, the boy gets the girl, or some other triumph is celebrated. Luckily for Trisha Yearwood, “How Do I Live Without You” is a great song that remains authentically romantic despite its inclusion in the “ConAir” soundtrack.

“When a Man Loves a Woman” by Percy Sledge
If you’ve never heard this song, stop everything and download it now. Play it, slow dance with your girl, and she’ll be in love. This works better than any potion or alcoholic beverage you can buy.

“Lovesong” by The Cure
“Lovesong” is proof that even the Goth kids at your school cared about love and romance. This sweet song’s chorus of “I will always love you” made it a staple on any mix tape. Lead singer Robert Smith might actually be as romantic as the song’s lyrics imply. He married his high school sweetheart in 1988 and they have been together ever since.

“Can’t Take My Eyes Off You” by Frankie Valli
The infomercials for Time-Life music compilations from the 50s and 60s always include this gem. “Can’t Take My Eyes off You” evokes nostalgic memories of date nights at malt shops and sock hops, but still resonates beyond its original context. This is one of the most romantic classics of all time.

“Sexual Healing” by Marvin Gaye
Original, sexy and very suave – there’s no mystery to where the evening is headed once this song is played. It’s likely that many babies have surely been born thanks in equal parts to cocktails and this sensual tune.

“I’d Die for You” by Bon Jovi
This heartfelt tune from Bon Jovi doesn’t dance around the topic of devotion with metaphors or figurative language; it goes straight to the heart of the matter. If someone sings this song to you, you’ll either be in love forever or need a restraining order quickly.

“You Light up My Life” by Debby Boone
This song definitely won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but we all tend to be saccharine sweet when we’re in love. Be warned, though: this song’s like an insulin shot.

“Wicked Game” by Chris Isaac
Chris Isaac’s cooing voice is half country yodeler-half torch singer in this sweeping song of the wicked, wicked things a woman can do to a man powerless to love. The steamy video made a lot more sense when you discovered that Helena Christensen and Isaac were actually dating at the time the song’s release. Gorgeous.

“Love Me Tender” by Elvis Presley
There’s little to say about Elvis that hasn’t been said before, but his velvety voice was never better used than in this ballad. Few songs age as well as this one – it sounds just as romantic and heartfelt as the day it was recorded.

“I Need Love” by LL Cool J
In the early years of rap, romance simply wasn’t on the radar. Rappers just didn’t really take time out from dissin’ sucker MCs to tell a girl they cared. LL Cool J took a break from touting his own lyrical skills to pen what many consider the first “rap ballad.” Nothing makes a girl’s heart swell like a tough guy showing his tender side.

“Fade Into You” by Mazzy Star
You may not recognize the title or the band’s name, but you’ve probably been struck by the haunting vocals. Singer Hope Sandoval’s voice is whispery and paper-thin – almost as if it’s about to give out before it soars again. It’s shiver-inducing and simply brilliant.

“No Ordinary Love” by Sade
Sade’s seductive voice immediately turns the mind to romance. The soft undertones of the melody, the lilting notes of the song and the beauty of its lyrics have made it a staple among music collections since its release.

“Me and Mrs. Jones” by Billy Paul
With its velvety notes and deep luscious tones, “Me and Mrs. Jones” is made for smooching. If you find yourself with “a thing goin’ on” as the song says, this song will definitely be the soundtrack to your fling.

“Thank You” by Dido
Dido reminds us that no matter how crummy your day might be or what obstacle might cross your path, it’s always a little easier to swallow when you’re in love. It’s a great sentiment we can all relate to – that favorable byproduct of endorphins produced by romance. But beware, gentleman: playing the Eminem song “Stan” which samples Dido’s “Thank You” is not at all romantic, for obvious reasons.

“I Will Always Love You” by Dolly Parton
First things first: We didn’t choose the Whitney Houston version. It’s fine in its own right, but we prefer Dolly’s little country voice on this song to Whitney’s booming power ballad. But both versions became popular because of the song’s lyrics. Who doesn’t want a former squeeze to love them forever?

“Amazed” by Lonestar
This lilting country tune can charm even the most urbane of city folk. Play it for your girl or boy and it just might become “your” song.

“True” by Spandau Ballet
Most people can’t hear “True” without thinking first of “Sixteen Candles,” one of the classic, teenage romance flicks of the 1980s. For all its 80s smarm and saxophone solos, “True” is still a great love song.

“Destiny” by Zero 7
Most techno and dance pop doesn’t quite express emotion, let alone love. “Destiny” is a swirling, romantic song – and even the electronic chirps and whirrs don’t diminish that.

“I Want to Know What Love Is” by Foreigner
No one, and I mean no one, can resist the chorus to this song. C’mon. Admit that you sing along to this 80s classic when nobody’s around. How can you resist the swelling gospel choir’s background vocals and singer Lou Gramm’s shouts of “I want you to show me!” This song’s been known to make grown men weep like a baby.

“Nothing Compares 2 You” by Sinead O’Connor
Originally done by Prince, Sinead’s Irish warble made this one a surprise hit in the early 90s. If you weren’t moved by the song, the video – with the tight shot of O’Connor’s crying face — surely plucked at your emotions.

“My Heart Will Go On” by Celine Dion
Regardless of what you think of “Titanic” as a film, its theme song is a classic tale of romance. Though it may have become a bit overexposed, you can’t deny the rousing crescendo-building in piece, or the passion in Celine Dion’s delivery. Besides, what other song would you want playing while you stand, arms outstretched, at the front of an ocean liner?

“You Are the Sunshine of My Life” by Stevie Wonder
Some may find it corny (although undoubtedly less corny than “I Just Called to Say I Love You”), but Stevie can sing anything and make it beautiful. Besides, when you’re wearing the rose-colored glasses of love, your sweetheart probably does seem like the sunshine of your life. “I Was Made to Love Her” may be a better choice for the soul purists out there.

“Fix You” by Coldplay
Organs and acoustic guitar make this track atmospheric and ethereal. Normally a policy of “fixing” a partner isn’t one I’d endorse, but Chris Martin means it in the nicest way possible. See “Protection” by Massive Attack if you like this one.

“I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing” by Aerosmith
Indeed I don’t, and I would bet that neither do you, which is why this song is such a romantic masterpiece. Steven Tyler sings full throttle, but the sentiment is still tender and real. The opening few words say it all: “I could stay awake just to hear you breathing …”

“Lotta Love” by Neil Young
The Canadian hippie with the weirdest, and at the same time, coolest voice takes a break from harassing the “Southern Man” with this tender ballad. Check out Nicolette Larson’s version, which is a tad more 70s disco-funk (yes, there’s a disco cover of a Neil Young song!)

“The Look of Love” by Dusty Springfield
“The Look of Love” evokes images of mod, swinging London, but Dusty’s voice oozes sensuality and soul that reminded many of the sounds of 60s Detroit. This one is the perfect soundtrack for your next stay-at-home dinner for two.

“In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel
Peter Gabriel certainly owes Cameron Crowe a thank you for including this song in Crowe’s movie “Say Anything.” The scene in which underdog Lloyd Dobler hoists a boom box overhead blaring “In Your Eyes” has become an iconic moment in romantic cinema and turned the Gabriel song into a classic.

“My Funny Valentine” by Chet Baker
Love songs can tend toward soft jazz drivel, but Chet Baker’s haunting jazz standard “My Funny Valentine” reminds most people of a time when jazz meant “artsy” rather than MOR (middle of the road) or “adult contemporary.”

“Love Song” by Tesla
Even if you have a grudge against hair metal, this song will have you waving your lighter in the air in no time. Tesla may have sported the long hair and the acid-wash jeans, but they also had a way with melodies that put them beyond their contemporaries. This is definitely the power ballad you won’t be too embarrassed to admit you actually find romantic.

“Hey There Delilah” by Plain White T’s
A sweet and sincere song about long-distance love. Apparently the real Delilah never gave the writer the time of day, but knowing that tidbit of unrequited love just makes the song that much more romantic.

“Your Song” by Elton John
Writing a song for someone surely ranks among the most romantic acts on earth. When the song is actually good, the romantic quotient skyrockets. As much as you appreciated your 7th grade boyfriend’s 2-chord jam in your honor, Elton does it better.

“Bleeding Love” by Leona Lewis
Honestly, the lyrics are pretty hard to decipher for this one. Is she singing about a love no one understands? Is this person someone who keeps hurting her yet she’s in love? It’s rather icky in places, with talk closing veins and bleeding love all over the place. Regardless, it’s a beautiful melody with beautiful vocals. Just beware of dedicating this to any potential sweethearts who may get the wrong idea.

“Unchained Melody” by Righteous Brothers
This song is almost obligatory in any list of love songs across the years. It’s a toss up whether this or “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling” is the better song, but if we’re talking romance, we’ll go with the uplifting harmonies of “Unchained.”

“You Were Always On My Mind” by Willie Nelson
You may not think “romance” when you think of Willie, but the man’s all heart. Underneath that scraggly beard and the bandana is a sensitive man indeed. If you’re looking for a more upbeat song, check out Willie’s “Maria (Shut Up and Kiss Me),” a song that will make you want to grab a beer and dance.

“Every Little Thing She Does is Magic” by the Police
Really? Everything? You don’t mind that your love never remembers to put the cap on the toothpaste? Or that when you walk under the umbrella it’s you that keeps on getting wet? Or that she snores really loudly? Now that’s romance!

“Hero” by Enrique Iglesias
Most men are probably wickedly jealous of Enrique’s good looks and his relationships with gorgeous women (tennis player Anna Kournikova, most famously). But having watched his father Julio make women swoon over the years, Enrique probably learned that having the guys hate you is greatly outweighed by the benefits of female attention.

“Alison” by Elvis Costello
Although the song is another one of those “songs to an ex,” the true romance comes from one of the greatest lyrics ever to appear in a love song: “Oh Allison/My aim is true.”

“Un-Break My Heart” by Toni Braxton
Music charts in the 80s and 90s were absolutely littered with romantic ballads, but many of them were the soulless kind that sounded manufactured on an assembly line. Toni Braxton’s voice prevents this one from becoming one of the Top 40 radio casualties and makes us believe in the power of love to mend a broken heart.

“Wonderwall” by Oasis
The lyrics are nonsense, and if you read any music press you’ll know the lead singer’s a lout, but despite all those things “Wonderwall” is a swoon-inducing love song. The strings and guitar combined with said lout’s soaring vocals make for an earnest, romantic song.

“Breathe” by Faith Hill
Faith Hill and husband Tim McGraw have sung a few romantic duets, but her solo hit made a huge impression on those who can appreciate a good love song. “Breathe” was a huge crossover hit and proved mainstream record buyers would accept a love song sung by a country singer.

“Protection” by Massive Attack, featuring Tracy Thorn
Not everyone may find a woman singing about protecting her man romantic, but you can’t argue with the sentiment in Tracy Thorn’s voice. Also check out “Missing” by Everything but the Girl, which is Tracy’s usual gig.

“Fallin’” by Alicia Keys
Soulful piano ballad that sounds both like a past era and of its time. Anyone who’s been involved in a rocky love affair can appreciate the sentiment in this song, particularly when you keep finding yourself falling back in love despite yourself.

“Let’s Do It (Let’s Fall In Love)” by Cole Porter
There are very few love songs most of us know from the 1920s, but Cole Porter’s song has stood the test of time with its witty lyricism and imagery. The most quoted lines are usually: “Birds do it/Bees do it/Even educated fleas do it/Let’s fall in love.” This is the song that will add a spring to your step when you first fall in love.

“Melt With You” by Modern English
Skinny, pale English new-wavers don’t make for your typical romance experts, but they always seem like big authorities on love when they open their mouths to sing, don’t they? Or at least this particular song has resonated with lovers since its release. The fact that it was used in a Burger King ad for a few years diminished its impact somewhat, but thankfully we can all now hear this song and not immediately think of flame-broiled Whoppers.

“You’re Still The One” by Shania Twain
So many songs are written about infatuation, initial attraction or that spark that exists in the early stages of a relationship – what about the rest of the relationship? That’s probably why so many record buyers were touched by “You’re Still the One.” There’s probably nothing more romantic than knowing that, despite your flaws, idiosyncrasies and other foibles, your sweetheart would still pick you all over again.

“Take My Breath Away” by Berlin
Berlin’s “Take My Breath Away” was made for slow-motion camera work, wind machines and billowing curtains. It fit perfectly with the love scenes between Kelly McGillis and Tom Cruise in “Top Gun,” and consequently became the soundtrack to thousands of 80s crushes.

Can you think of anymore? Tell us about them on the forum at www.datingdragons.com/forums

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Mistakes Men Make In The Bedroom

Alexa — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 07:44:03 +0000

Many men think they know all there is to know about how to satisfy a woman in the bedroom. However, they fail to realise that their repertiore often contains a lot of basic errors and assumptions. All of which can make them a less than satisfying partner.

The reality is that most men figure out sex through ‘on the job training’ or from what they have seen on the blue screen. They discover a new ‘trick’ and try to implement it in their act. Unlike a magician who has the audience’s applause to gauge the success of his performance, few partners will give easily discernible feedback.

Here are a handful of mistakes you might be making.

1. You know what she wants

Men often assume that they know what the girl wants. What do they base this on? The only thing they can base it on- what has worked for them in the past. But they fail to realise that every woman is different.

When men get into bed they often switch on their show- its akin to pressing ‘play’ on the DVD player. The problem is that the audience is not always the same. The performance needs to suit the audience- from the no-strings-attached booty call to the super clingy college student and everything in between.

2. You have all she needs

Most men feel that they have all the moves and equipment to send any woman to the moon. The harsh reality is that some women can’t even commence lift off with anything less than 3,000 rpm. This is something no part of the human pleasuring machine can obtain. If she requests you to use her battery operated friend, you are better off sharing the stage with a side kick than getting boo’d off when your performance fails to impress the crowd.

3. You know your way around the female form

The reality is that many women are unable to climax from without clitoral stimulation. Many men are unaware of this fact. The ‘man in the boat’ is a very important ally that you should become intimately familiar with. Unfortunately for men, each woman is different and the touch that may send one woman into heavenly orbit may be insignificant to another or downright painful. The only way you can find out is to ask.

4. Wet = turned on

Not always a direct relationship. The natural lubrication can change from day to day depending on stress and the phase of the menstrual cycle. She may be dry but rearing to go, or moist but holding a ‘Stop’ sign.

5. Silence is golden.

A lot of guys think they need to be quiet or silent in bed. The reality is that like you, she is there to please her audience as well. A little feedback to let her know what is working for you helps her, and realistically will also work in your favour too.

So here are a few myths demystified. Hopefully now you will be better equipped to improve your craft.

Visit the forum at www.datingdragons.com/forums

Happy Dating

Alexa xxx

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How To Ask A Girl Out

Harry — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 23:35:52 +0000

Today we will discuss the age old question: how to ask a girl out on a date. Don’t get stuck being the one who dreams of asking a girl out but can never complete the task. Sure, there are many ways to do this, but I would just like to point out a few things.

Timing: Getting your timing right in every part of dating a girl is never more important than when asking a girl out. Try not to ask a girl out when she is preoccupied or busy with something – you are seriously reducing your chances. Ask her when she is happy, and free. A good time would be when you’ve just told a good joke, or when you both have had a laugh at something. Studies show that a persons mind is far more receptive to suggestion when they have just had a laugh. Use this fact to your advantage.

Preparation: Some guys go to huge lengths to prepare for asking a girl out. Unforutunately this isn’t the best thing to do in the long term. Sure there may be a few couples out there with romantic stories of how they met, or how a girl was asked out – but I know that they are just one in a thousand. If you follow this thought, you will be so scared and pressured when asking a girl out, that she will think you are crazy! Don’t ask her out with sky writing or on the megascreen at the superbowl – save those for later!

What to say: So what should you say when asking a girl out on a date? Of course, as I link to in many of my other articles, being confident is the key. You do not need to have a silver tongue to ask a girl out on a date. Make sure that you don’t stutter, and that you can ask her out with confidence and that will make you 50% more successful for a start. Tell yourself that she is lucky to be asked out by someone like you. This will flow on to the way you ask her out.

Dealing with rejection: I’ve already touched on this in previous articles, but keep in mind that you will NEVER have a 100% record. You will never even have 50%. If you got a date 25% of the time you asked a girl out, you are already doing well. Keep that in mind for later down the track, as you can never let a rejection put you down. Some of the most successful guys are the ones that just keep trying and trying. And never back down to a different standard to what you’re looking for. ie: Just because you didn’t get the 9/10 stunner at the bar doesn’t mean you have to have 10 drinks and pick up the 3/10 she-male standing next to her at 5am in the morning. Keep you head up.

OK, so you’re probably wondering why I haven’t given you some lines or some ideas of how to pick up, but that’s the point. Asking a girl out on a date shouldn’t be about fancy lines and locations. Its all about your attitute, and mental preparation. A girl will say YES if you project to her that you are worth going out with.

If you have any questions, ask me on the forum at www.datingdragons.com/forums or comment to me here.

Happy Hunting

Harry Laurent

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