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Dating Red Flags
OK, so fellow readers, you may have thought you’ve read about Dating Red Flags in other articles on the internet, but they don’t tell you what I am about to. They give you the red flags the the women WANT you to know about, but don’t tell you the red flags that you NEED to know about.
What is a Dating Red Flag? I’m sure you have already experienced those situations where something someone has said to you, or done in front of you has made you feel a bit weird. Or a bit uneasy. These are instinct cues. Some people think that only certain people have instincts. But everyone has the same instincts, the only difference is that some people know how to read, interpret and act on them. Read more and I will teach you how. Firstly let’s visit online dating. You would have started off relatively skeptical, as everyone does. You are not sure that online dating will be safe. Fair enough. Often these relationship meeting spots are rife with unsavoury characters. It is very wise to have a second email address or similar to deal with these situations. I often have an email address called the burn email. If it gets too hot for whatever reason, I shut it down. A good example is using gmail. You can even register multiple email address within the same login. Here are a few red flags of importance, not only for online dating, but also for regular dating as well.
Take heed, as these will serve you well in the future and may just prevent you from ending up writing in the dating disasters section of the forum board!
- Someone you just met online tries to get your phone number or address within the first week of meeting you
- You receive more than 3 messages a day
- The person you are talking to online or in the real world does not answer your questions directly. Why are they avoiding your questions?
- Puts pressure on you to meet them, or gives you an ultimatum
- Will not contact you by phone after you have developed your online relationship. Avoids any real (home phone number, address) information.
- Describes many cliche situations – ie: loving to sit next to a log fire, drinking hot chocolate and gazing into each others eyes.
- Strong religious or political views that you feel are being pressured on you.
OK, sure, this list could go on, and I’m sure they are things that you already know, so onto the interesting part. What about dating red flags to let you know that the person you are dating (online or offline) isn’t really who you think they are:
- Always arrives late, and in a hurry to leave all the time
- Only calls you at strange hours
- Looks at their phone during dates and then changes plans immediately
- Is always looking around the room, scanning the crowd whilst talking to you
- Seems to know lots of people but won’t introduce you.
Right well, as you can see, there are a lot of red flags to observe. And probably many many more that I haven’t written about. The most important dating red flags, however, and the ones that you may be mostly interested in, are those given by a woman, that indicates that she’s just not that into you!
- Girls love communication. So be worried if she always seems to be ending conversations (ie ending an email thread or facebook chat or sms barrage). In general, men will always want to end conversations far before women.
- She seems to know lots of men, and flirts with them, and never introduces you.
- The plans you try to make are often twarted at the last minute. You seem to be chasing her schedule all the time.
- When you are together, you feel that you need to impress her all the time just to get her to keep talking to you.
- She never offers to pay for anything.
- She never invites you to meet her friends.
I hope this list has given you some insight into the dating red flags that I have come across in my travels. There are many many more dating tips and cautions that I have, however my articles have been getting to long (So I’m told!). If you would like to ask me more, please ask me on the forum located at http://www.datingdragons.com/forums or facebook me – search for Harry Laurent!
Thanks for reading
Happy Hunting
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Yeah, I agree – totally useful. Love it! Thanks!
Nooooo! I am using my iphone and I cannot seem to be able to open the page correctly. I will be back to read this tonight when I get home from school. The title seems like something I must read.