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Pick Up With Essential Flirting Techniques
Welcome back readers, and this is the article that I would recommend bookmarking. Click on the link at the bottom of the page to save this as a PDF as you will refer to this on an ongoing basis. Keep a copy of it on your phone so you can read it just before going on date, or meeting new women. Practice the techniques, even when you are meeting women you aren’t that romantically interested in. These tips will move you from being a man trying to pick up a handful of attractive women, to someone who gets talked about as the guy that Just Has That Special Something…You will be happy you read this, and you won’t know how you got on without it.
Be Confident
From the first moment you meet a girl, make sure you have your confident shoes on. Yes, you’ve read about confidence before, and I have to stress this as a very important feature in your flirting technique. You need to be able to pull it off – or you will look like you are just reading lines from a magazine subscription to Cosmopolitan rather than being the most eligible bachelor. Square your shoulders back and lift your chin. Always have a small smile on your face like you know something that she doesn’t. It makes her feel intrigued about you which translates into dating success.
Staring is not eye contact
Learning the art of eye contact is without a doubt one of the most difficult skills to master. When you are thinking about maintaining eye contact, you will tend to stare. Instead, try to think of something funny while you’re gazing at her, rather than how much you want to rip her clothes off. Once you master the correct amount of eye contact to give a girl, you will find that they will come back to you for more. Eye contact is so powerful that by doing it right, it will be all you will need. Focus on one of her eyes and slowly alternate between the two. By trying to look at both of her eyes at the same time you will appear to be staring straight through her.
Being a gentleman is not being a pushover
Your mother always told you to open doors for girls, and to lay your jacket on the wet ground for her to walk over. Of course, not all tips from your mother can be translated into this modern world. So you will need to read the following list of things that you can do safely without appearing like you are a pushover. The don’ts of dating is an important list (By Resident Dating Expert Alexa Hartstone). Read it later if you get the chance.
- Do open doors. As you approach a door, make sure you are in the position to open the door for her without appearing like you had to run a circle around her to get to it. If it appears smooth and unpressured, you will maintain your “coolness”. Don’t run around cars to open the door for her. Instead, if you are in the back seat such as being in a taxi (Always sit in the back with your date in taxis), open your door and hold it open from outside the taxi and gesture for her to follow through the same door. If she gets to the door first, don’t panic. Take one step forwards and open the door to allow her to go through. The secret is in making it look natural rather than pressured.
- Introduce her to people you meet. When introducing your new date or even someone you are in a relationship with, make sure you take the initiative to introduce her to anyone you meet. Make her feel special when you do this. Always introduce anyone you meet by speaking to her first. By doing this, she feels like you think she is special enough to be the stronger part of the introduction. This is a relatively subtle point, but will reward you in spades as you go through your day at a party. ie: Always say “Tina, this is Robert, he’s one of my friends from work” rather than “Robert, meet Tina”.
- Carry her heavy things – this is not being a pushover. You are stronger, and you should not hide this. Reinforce this by doing the mens work whenever you can. Holding any toys you win for her at an amusement park works well too. If things move on to relationship status – carry the shopping bags etc. You are a gentleman, and other women will see this too.
- Compliment her when she has put effort in – Most men will not realise that a girl has spent 2 hours blowdrying her hair and preening herself. Dating tips like these are widespread in other articles, but be warned. Your compliments need to be well times, and well thought out. Blurting out “That dress is nice” as you get out of a taxi is going to be less powerful than saying it as you walk into a party. If you can, try to find one thing that you can say about something specific. Such as an earing or a bracelet or something. Chances are it has some story that will lead you into some of her personal stories. This is critical in getting her to open up to you.
Moving your Body
Body language should never be underestimated. As much as you analyse her body language for cues, the same is happening for her. As you await the flick of her hair, or for her to cross her legs in your direction, she is waiting for the following things from you.
- Envelop her in your “arc”. When you are sitting at the bar, draw a line from each of your legs – she should sit between the arc that your legs make. This makes her feel safe, and she will likely open up further to you, which is a good thing. By placing your body in a way that envelops hers, she is subconsciously already beginning to believe that she is yours before anything even happpens.
- Never fidget. Wriggling, touching your clothes, tapping your foot, scratching, anything like this will project that you are nervous. Nervous guys don’t get plenty of dates. One of my students once told me that he got a friend to videotape him on a date once, which gave him the insight he needed into his body language. After reviewing the video, he saw many body language cues that he never knew existed. Although this takes some setup to accomplish, with today’s technological advances, this is achievable.
- Touch her! – Although this doesn’t mean you squeeze her nipple when you first meet her, try this. When shaking hands with her for the first time, touch her elbow. Watch any US president on TV meeting a foreign dignitry. They stand confident, and whilst they are shaking hands, they gently place a hand on the persons elbow. This signifys strength, and puts you in a powerful position. This is also a warm way to greet people. Girls feel safe with ment who are powerful. A common question is the kiss on the cheek. Although this is widespread, when you first meet someone, you should never go in for the kiss on the cheek. Of course, if she instigates this, then go for it, but never start it yourself. Some girls find this strange, and more often than not, it starts off your first date with awkwardness.
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