Do Bad Guys Always Get the Girl?

OK, so here we are – waiting for that fantastic opportunity to meet that perfect girl and what do we see? The Bad Guy gets the girl. Often on TV and in the movies, it seems like the tough guy gets the desirable girl. Do you recall the bad boys at school always had the hottest babes? The best looking girls always seem to love the bad guys. Is it because the best looking guys became the bad guys? Everywhere we tend to see bad guys and nice girls. We see them with the girls of our fantasies. In the mall we see our perfect haired goddesses with Eminem’s evil twin. What has happened to the world. Has nature gone bonkers?

Traits of a Bad Boy:

So this may confuse you greatly. And I am not surprised. From the things we may read in newpapers and magazines, it seems like women are always longing for that lovely man who will bring them hot cocoa in winter, and give them hourly foot rubs. To confuse matters even more, men, in general, are told that we need to be a hero and a tough guy. And also, in the modern world, it is becoming more and more “important” to be that SNAG (Sensitive New Aged Guy). Whilst we are struggling with this, the bad guy down the road is having is way with the girls of our dreams. Life, and love , my friends, can seem brutally unfair. Perhaps we need to delve into this phenomenon a bit closer.

Curiousity and interet. People that do bad things are generally interesting. No matter what we think, the news and tabloid style magazines are riddled with bad acts. We LOVE to read about them and know what bad things people are doing. Its just human nature – just pick up a magazine. No-one is writing about Angelina Jolie giving her money to charity – they talk about what a bad parent she is, or the fact that Bill Gates will one day donate 99% of his wealth to charity when he dies – similarly, bad guys are interesting – and they do interesting things. They have moved away from the traditional good boy attitute and developed their own “code of conduct”. They do whatever they want. They go wherever they want. They answer to no one. They are, in other words…fascinating. Do what everyone wants you to do (ie: becoming a doormat) and people will place you in that pigeon hole. Like in top gun, Maverick is interesting – he is a cocky, funny, slightly rude arrogant individual - straight up guys are not. Now before you go and start throwing chairs around in your local macdonalds, keep reading.

This type of guy projects utmost  confidence and self assuredness. They are aware of their surroundings and what kind of person they want to project themselves to be. (See confidence in dating). What about Kramer from Seinfeld? He’s the type of Odd Bad Guy I’m talking about. Yes he is fiction, but this still applies.

Bad guys are also a challenge and as much as we love a challenge, females also find bad guys challenging. You might find that women might love a challenge even more than us! If something is challenging, the end results must surely be worthwhile, right? Anything easy or simple just isn’t worth doing, now is it? Women who go after the bad guy are looking for the rainbow at the end of the storm. Some are delusional and they think they will change the guy (This will never happen). In any case, they will go to great efforts to quench their curiosities. And once its all done, they will  never want to let go – difficult things seem more valuable to us. Plus it makes for a rollercoaster ride because the bad guy could walk at any moment. Danger is exhililrating – the greater the danger of losing the bad guy, the more effort they’ll put forth to keep them. I think its fairly clear what we can learn from here.

So if we not dissect these findings and observations what do we find? Confidence, Power, Character, Mavericks, Strength – all characteristics that can make us more appealing to some women. In fact, more women than you think. And this is exactly what we see when we observe the bad guys – so it is not really surprising that they get the hot women. Now please note: I am not saying you should go out and become a bad boy, but I am saying that you should take away from this article some of the tips from what makes a bad boy attractive and put this into play at some stage to see if it works for you. You can never go wrong trying to become more confident. It doesn’t mean to say that we like these guys, and it doesn’t mean it is fair or even a good thing, but raw attraction can be nature’s way. We MUST learn from this.

What I am saying is that we can learn some things from these examples. Your appeal to the opposite sex can be modified and added to with the help of these tips. Your dating arsenal will improve! That’s the way we grow, and how you can benefit from reading these articles. By increasing your confidence levels, getting yourself sorted with respect to career, personal fitness, etc, then you’ll get that bad boy confidence (Note, being a bad boy doesn’t mean being a jerk). And that attitude will boost your success with members of the opposite sex. Like all my articles – you have to know that not all girls will respond to this kind of thing – but in general these rules will apply.

The modern dating game is more complex than it was 50 years ago. No surprises there. Going back to basics, and analyzing what it is that you think potential partners would like and thinking about how can you match yourself to those qualities will improve your chances TEN fold. Changing just a few small things could make the world of difference.

Happy Hunting

Harry

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