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How to Overcome Fear of Rejection
When it comes to dating beautiful women, most men’s poor success comes from their fear of rejection. Learn how to deal with rejection.
The typical scenario is: you are out with your mates at a a bar and across the room you see a beautiful woman you like. She glances at you and knows you are interested. You fantasize about how much you would like to date and see how far you could go. But then when it comes to putting yourself on the line, you chicken out and tell yourself that you have no chance. Meanwhile some other loser has sneaks in and steals your woman because you are too scared of being rejected.
There are plenty of old saying
s which continue to hold true:
“You will miss 100% of the shots you fail to make”
“FEAR is just an abbreviation for False Expectations Appearing Real”
“Every time we choose safety, we reinforce fear”
Here are a few tips to help you get over your fear of rejection and help you approach, attract and date more hot girls.
1. Observe how infrequently rejection actually occurs.
Head out to a busy bar or club one night, either by yourself or with your friends. Look around and find a handful of hot women because these are the ones that will be approached by the guys.
Pay attention to the types of approaches that these women get by guys. You will usually observe one of three things; a) a guy will approach her and she will accept his offer to buy her a drink; b) after a brief conversation she will pleasantly decline a guy she doesn’t like; c) some idiot will make a sexist remark and or grab her ass and she will expectantly be irritated. The point is that unless you are a prick, your approach is going to be either positive or neutral- not the cataclysmic, world-ending terror that passes through your mind.
2. Take baby steps.
Approaching beautiful women in a bar and starting a conversation is a challenging scenario if you have not had any practice. You need to slowly build up your confidence in approaching women so that when you are in the heat of battle with her friends dragging her to the dance floor and your friends gesturing in the background, you are able to remain calm and cool with your conversation.
Start by getting used to opening up a conversation with attractive women. One of the simplest ways of doing this is by approaching the sales staff at the retail counter. If you go to any men’s fragrance or clothing counter you are generally assured you will have a reasonably attractive girl manning the desk. Get used to obtaining eye contact, approaching them and then making an opening statement or greeting. Its easy to simply start by asking her questions that are directly related to the goods she is selling. For example what the current popular fragrances are. Alternatively pretend that you are looking to get a friend’s gift and simply ask what she would recommend- just be careful that if you use this method that you don’t inadvertently get talked into buying yourself a whole wardrobe of items as this will make your training a very expensive experience!
Once you have gotten comfortable with ‘non-emotional’ conversation, you can move to practicing your skills with jokes and compliments. These are ‘emotional’ conversation and we will talk about this more specifically in another article.
3. Plan to have something to say.
Failing to plan is planning to fail. We have all heard that before. If you are going to approach a woman, make sure you have something to say. There is nothing worse than getting your courage together, walking up to the hot girl and then saying “Hello, um…….” You don’t need to have the funniest or wittiest line to open up the conversation. Simple things such as the weather, asking about how her day has been are easy no-brainer conversation starters. They are just simple ice breakers. Make sure you have at least 3 conversation starters in mind for any given situation.
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